Thursday, April 02, 2009

More Parenting

I'm so sorry to focus so much on parenting so much...but it is where I am struggling/floundering/whimpering these days. It is just sooooo hard. Right now we are smack dab in the middle of a psuedo-crisis. (Aren't they all!!) My girls are really struggling with friends...how to be one, how to have one. How to maintain more than one friendship. How to be "cool" and yet keep your identity. How to have an identity of your own without "borrowing" someone else's. How to handle it when you have to share all of your friends with your sister. (Holy CRAP! That is a TOUGH one!!!)

You know what I am learning? I can't fix it. I can't help with it. Sure, I can offer advice and guidance but the bulk of it, they have to learn on their own. They make their own mistakes, impressions, enemies and then, they have to live with them. I can't come in and 'white out' the mean thing they said or did. AND THAT, is what I hate the most about parenting. Watching my little birds have to waller in the mistakes.

I'm sure God feels the same way about me.

2 comments:

hulagirlatheart said...

It's tough isn't it? I have my hands full with one daugter. I can't imagine having three. That's a lot of hormones in one house!

ShortyMom said...

All of the stuff you mentioned goes along with boys, too! Bryce is 11 and struggles every day with trying to be the funny one, even though he is more awkward with his comments than he is funny. Then we get on to the topic of how to not let what kids say affect you too much because let's face it...kids can be cruel. That being said...I'm sooo glad I only have one girl when it comes to hormones!

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