Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Honestly Cynical

"The enemy of our souls first tempted Eve by asking her a question, “Did God really say…” It was a question meant to challenge the goodness of God. It was evil and cynical in nature.
A cynic is a faultfinding captious critic; especially one who believes that human conduct is motivated wholly by self-interest. (source – Miriam  (Oh my goodness, most of the time I truly believe this with all my heart!) (Sometimes though, I know it isn't true for that has to be the case for other people too.)
Cynicism is to prayer what cancer is to the body. It eats away at the very life of the person it embodies. A cynic is suspicious of everyone and questions the motives of what makes them do what they do. When we apply this to our prayer life, the cynic actually questions God – like the serpent in the Garden. (Being a cynic is exhausting!)
These are hard words to hear. Yet many of us if we’re honest, will admit our prayers are often hindered by our cynicism. We pray and our prayers seemingly go unanswered, so we think to ourselves – why bother? Why get my hopes up just to see nothing happen."

I am really struggling with cynicism right now.  Probably in every area of my life.  Definitely in every area of my life.  In fact, my whole attitude of late can be summed up as cynical.  Examples:
  • Why should I do anything for him, it just goes unnoticed or is quickly forgotten?
  • Why even bother to talk to the kids about that, all they hear is 'nag nag',  'lecture lecture'?
  • Why clean the house, it just gets messed up again?
  • Why should I be the one to volunteer, I always volunteer?  It is someone else's turn.
  • Why do I always have to be the one to take the high road?  (It's lonely up here, LOL.)
I think this post came along into my life to day as a wake up call.  I am almost totally given over to my selfishness and cynicism these days.  I have been so busy thinking that I try and no one else does that it has consumed me.  Thinking that I am so much more sacrificial and refusing to give in one more time has cause me to be totally self-absorbed and selfish.  Which is quite the opposite of sacrifice.  Sacrifice is choosing to do something regardless of the outcome.  Meaning if no one appreciates it, you still do it because it is the right thing to do.  If no one even notices, it is still the right thing to do.  Being plugged into God is essential for this to happen without bitterness.  It is only His overflow which can provide me with th ability to love without expectations.

Parenting is the most sacrificial job ever.  The sacrifice of self is endless and seldom produces the results we think we want.  We look at the small picture of NOW and forget that growing up is a process.  We compare the worst of our kids to the best of others.  We listen to other parents paint their children as a Picasso and get depressed over our fingerpainted mess.  I am praying to give my kids more grace.  They are amazing kids and yet I keep pushing for more...better grades, better cross country times, cleaner rooms, better attitudes, better communication, making quality friendships, doing meaningful devotions, praying, treating family wonder they feel like not even trying sometimes.  This is the abbreviated list of expectations.

I am a very blessed mom and wife.  I am flawed and so is my spouse and so are my children.  We will never be perfect this side of the dirt.  I need to stop trying to be perfect, expecting perfect, and perhaps worst of all, trying to put perfect up as our family display.  I am often complimented on being 'real'.  However, this is often a backhanded compliment because the people who look and act perfect seem to get the most attention and respect.  They are revered for having it all together...even when we all know deep down no one does.  I guess I just want to be honest in a world where honesty is not rewarded.  I know that being real is MY only choice...but I sometimes feel completely naked in my 'real' when everyone else is dressed to the nines in their 'pretense'.  I desperately need to know other people have struggles too. I also need to be seen as something other than 'flawed'...which is another word for 'real'.  I am forgiven...I get to be seen as Christ sees me...or at least that is how it is supposed to be.  I sure don't want anyone to look at my life and think I have it all figured out.  However, sometimes I feel like the only one with skin showing.

My cynicism and I need to go take a shower...hopefully the cynicism washes down the drain...but the cynic in me wonders if that is even possible.

Lord, have mercy on me, a sinner.

Sunday, October 09, 2011

Autumnal Bliss

I am loving every minute of fall.  The weather is going from cool days/cool nights to hot days/cool nights...LOVE it.  I savor the moments of hot and cool.  Light jackets, sweatshirts, flip flops and sandals all make fall so unique.  It is sort of a combo of the best of summer and the best of winter.

Pumpkins, apples, butternut squash, halloween candy(lol)...autumn harvest is so fun. 

Today the fam and I went to Garden of the Gods(Southern IL, not Colorado) and had lots of good fun that was funny.  Kayla wished her school had a hiking club which is Kayla talk for: "I like what we are doing.".  Satisfaction in my middle child is always a good thing.  She plays her emotions close to her chest so one has to study her to know the authentic emotion.  We then followed up with Rim Rock which is one of my favorite places on earth...I prefer the valley to the mountaintop.  Does that mean something philosophical?

Now, another topic.  Indulge me.  Erik's dad was a bit of a pack rat.  A frugal packrat.  Two of the things we have inherited lately are his collection of hotel coffee and his collection of hotel shampoos and soaps.  Erik is really enjoying the coffee and the girls are having a blast using the little shampoos.  This is where I gotta lecture a bit.  If you have something in your life that you are not using...GIVE IT TO SOMEONE WHO WILL!!  Jerry was frugal and would have LOVED knowing how much his son and grandkids were enjoying something he paid nothing for.  AND, because he kept a small stockpile of full sized, brand preferred coffees and shampoos, he wasn't using them.  NOT that we don't enjoy a daily reminder of him and smile often at this thrift. 

Tomorrow is back to school for the kids after a very nice but somewhat uneventful fall break.  We did not have a vacation, but we did enjoy being home and got out to do some fun things here and there.  I will miss the girls terribly this week...but I am so thankful they enjoy school and are doing so well. 

There you have it...all caught up.

Wednesday, October 05, 2011


  1. Went to the dentist and got my teeth cleaned today.  Laughing gas, how I love you...thank you for helping me escape the pain of dentistry!
  2. Spent the day with my kids doing all the things they requested today.
  3. Have most of Lilly's costume for a school project finished thanks to Erika and thrift store finds.
  4. Supper made and kitchen mostly clean thanks to husband.
  5. Closet cleaned out and mostly organized.
  6. 3 loads of laundry completed.
And yet, the day has totally sucked.  Sounds like alot was accomplished and it was...which proves to me that sometimes productive days suck too.