Sunday, November 05, 2006

SOS-Communication advice, anyone?

My husband and I, like many other couples, speak two different languages. We communicate so infrequently that most of the time this is not a problem. This pretty much means we only miscommunicate about the big stuff. This is a problem. I have a headache from trying to communicate why I am upset about the car purchase. Which leads right into all our other unresolved fights. Which puts us exactly right back to square one.

I am re-reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" again so I can again feel convicted of being a bad wife. Because, right now I feel like a doormat, with a hint of new car smell. I guess I need to pray some more about that attitude adjustment.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

You're not a bad wife !! My husband and I used to never communicate and I felt very similar to how you feel now. Remember, you're both to "blame" not just you.
What I did with my husband was simply say to him, look I'm tired of fighting and arguing can we just sit and talk. I'll listen to you and you listen to me. Don't interupt each other, just listen. That what started my husband and I communicating. I think communication is one of the foundations of a good marriage. It can be changed, my husband and I did it and now for the last 5 yrs. we've had an unbelievable marriage.
There's always hope :)
Deborah

Susie said...

((big hugs))