Thursday, May 18, 2006

Okay Heather, that was payback right? Two days is not at all that long!!

I spent all day yesterday with my friend Christina. We have known each other since first grade and now we both homeschool. We discussed all of our high school (and school in general) stupidity. IT took all day..hee hee. I think we are both more resolved to homeschool. HS was so much about sex, drugs and drinking. I was such a strong personality even then and I caved to some of it. (you just have to guess which parts) Now all of that kind of crap starts in middle school and I can't even imagine what I might have gotten into had those temptations assailed me that young. We mostly talked about others whose decisions now follow them for life. It is hard to live past being a "joint whore" or being the girl who "serviced" everybody who wanted it. I believe God can restore anyone and he has certainly forgiven and restored me, but the consequences of the sin in my life are still there. I still run into certain people and just want to be invisible. The impact of our stupid decisions lives on forever.

We also talked about how most of those type girls were sexually abused in some way and no one took the time to teach them differently. I would have to say those things are probably so much more common in our culture that "those girls" are probably populous now than they were then. In my high school there were mostly just girls that slept with their boyfriends. Maybe 5-10 slept with "everybody". From what I hear about there are probably just a few that are virgins or only sleep with their boyfriends. Sad sad days. Something is going to have to change within school systems and families soon. Schools are ripe with sexuality and middle schoolers don't have the maturity to decide if sex is even something they want to do. They just want to be liked and it is a surefire way to be popular-at least for a little while. In my day girls were taught to say no. I'm not sure they are anymore.

Okay there is my lovely bit of encouragement. If you have a middle school child in your life, you better have open communication. You better check out some VD resources and pregnancy stats and be armed to the max with reasons to say no. Go over God's plan for sex and marriage daily!! Do not assume your child is not sexually active, most kids have at least entertained the thought by age 13. Heavy petting starts at age 12. Information is key. Supervision is the only deterent!! If you are dropping your 12 year old off at the movies with her boyfriend, she is 90% more likely to be having sex. Don't believe me? Go check out some my spaces. Keep in mind too that some parents think sex at young ages is totally cool-they look back on their own promiscuity as "fun" and want their kids to have the same "fun". Be informed parents and be involved parents. Most critical....PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY!! You can't pray too much!!

Pause while I step off my soapbox. Lighter post next time I promise!!

5 comments:

Susie said...

Yes, I do worry about that some. My son will turn 13 this Saturday . . . We talk quite a bit on this subject. Of course you don't know until later how much you communicated, but we do really talk.

jessica said...

A couple of weeks ago my daughter, who is 8, and I got into a conversation about homosexuality and sex... I was amazed at how much she knew. I didn't have the "sex talk" until I was 11 but I can see that there is a need right now with her. I asked her where she learned all this... her response... on the playground during recess. Maybe I should homeschool...

SuperMom said...

One of my old high school friends dropped by the other night. She has an eighth grader. After she left I was more resolved than ever to homeschooling!!

Scary stuff.

BohemianMama said...

Ditto, on the emphasis on PRAYER . . . that is one of the few things in life I'm sure of!!

~d said...

There was a Primetime something or another on TV ( thursday ) last night. I wanted to watch it b/c it said it talked about girls and sex and drugs, etc. I caught a few minutes of it, but I am ( overly? ) protective about what my children are exposed to...so I ended up turning it off. It seemed to be right on board with what you are saying, but interestingly it didn't offer ADVISE. This was a good post!