Saturday, April 19, 2008

Weekend Update

Date night was splendiforous. I was assured we were dealing with cooked sushi-but I could not trust it since I was dealing with sushi lovers who could be trying to trick me into loving it with them. It was gorgeous and the presentation/eating style was very hard to resist. I love flames and chopsticks. I did try two "beef sushis", they were yummy. I also tried some sauce that had my mouth on fire and Japanese beer that was good too. Erik loved all of it. He ate sushi like a seasoned sushi pro. I enjoyed chicken teriyaki with white rice, soup and salad. I also had some green tea ice cream which was very yummy. I doubt I will ever have it again but it made me look a bit more open-minded to try something exotic (and not RAW).

After sushi, we went to hear a band that Erik subs for sometimes. They were really good. We listened to the first set and drank coffee and diet coke. I totally embarrased myself by knocking over Erik's cup of coffee. Good thing I was only drinking diet coke. It had been a long time since I had listened to these guys play. One of the band members has had some really scary health issues so it was good to see him doing well. I do not enjoy going to bars and listening to bands-but I know my husband does so I make the best of it. People in bars just annoy me. I don't have any desire to go there, but where else can you go to hear good music on date night?

Today, I went to my moms, helped her get a shower, changed her dressing and then had the unique privilege of taking her tooooooo...............my least favorite place in the world..............especially on Saturday..............Super Walmart. Yaaaahoooooo! It was as much fun as I knew it would be. But it only took about 2 hours total so it could have been worse.

Then we spent the rest of the day arguing because my stepfather's children have chosen to feud with him. My mom is taking sides and being angry and I have argued with her that her job is to encourage him to make peace with his children. I am not even sure he can-but at 84 years old, I am sure he should be trying. It just blows my mind that children will be mad over things that happened so many years ago-or yesterday. When Daddy is old and infirm is NOT the time to iron out those differences, or worse, tell Daddy off and have nothing to do with him. Most people just don't change when they are old. Some do, but most just become more stubborn and set in their ways. I feel really bad for any grown person who cannot forgive and forget the failings of their parents when the parents are old and need care. They will live with shame and regret when he passes on. Love is a choice. No matter who you are and what your circumstances, there will come a time that you have to decide to love someone even if they don't necessarily "deserve" it. Because really, none of us are very deserving. I just don't believe kicking someone when they are down is ever the right thing to do-especially if it is over unmet expectations and hurt feelings. The high road is never the wrong decision or the easy one.

2 comments:

Amy said...

I'm glad your date night was fun!;)

Jen, Fred, Jennifer said...

oh janice....I can not even begin to tell you how much I understand what you are saying.....my dad died young, he was 50, but the emotions I dealt with in the time leading up to his death and even after.....it was a long road and one I struggled with daily.

I am in a good place now with all that happened......I feel sad for him now, sad that he missed out on so many good things.....but I am no longer angry at him for things that happened during my childhood, adolescence and young adulthood.....but it took a really long time.....

Hugs, I hope his children can overcome their issues before it is too late.....